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I just recently had an effective (not to discuss uncomfortable) lesson to learn. It appears that when I do not ‘get’ something deep space has a means of slapping me throughout the face with it. I’m sure it’s something to do with my persistent nature and my refusal to move my viewpoint when I think I’m currently ‘right’ about something. Nevertheless, when I don’t detect the gentle subtleties of life’s courses and the softly softly approach has failed me, the universe comes down on me like a tropical thunderstorm. There’s no hiding from it, no running away and no pretending like it isn’t happening. So I thought I’d share my little lesson with you so that you may have the chance to profit from my blunders and avoid being put throughout the cheek in the middle of a rainstorm yourself.

Recently someone crossed me. They belittled me, put me down and attacked me. (well it seemed like an attack at the time although I did confess after to being a little reduced, a bit over sensitive and rather premenstrual-mental) anyway … I responded. That’s the vital word here reacted. Emotionally charged, sustained with defensive anger, I attacked back, I snapped with my scorpion sting and hurt the man right where it harms– the confidence!

relationships after divorceNormally I’m such a sweet natured, charming girl however I’m not nice to cross. I make sure that the little girl with the little curl nursery rhyme was covered me. Anyhow, I did not hold back. I let slit. In a manner that only I understand how. All that I stated was real, however it was talked in a vicious tongue with the purpose to hurt. And hurt it did. The issue is that when the scorpion produces that poisonous substance a bit of that poisonous substance stays in your very own system, polluting the pure blood and makes you feel bad. I felt so bad about the discomfort and hurt that I’d actually caused that I cried for 2 days L

You’re accountable for your own activities and you cannot criticize another person. If someone hurts or attacks you and you become angry– you’re choosing temper. If you vent that temper, you’re choosing to. Then that temper enters into you, it becomes the color that you’ve chosen to put on that day.

Optimized keys to loveWhen these situations take place in my life, I dissect them. I cut them up into little pieces and try frantically tough to understand them. I’ve always been unbelievable self -reflective and should learn from every circumstance as it arises. I clarified the scenario to my mum, who described it to me in Astrological terms. She informed me that I’ve a lot of individual planets in Scorpio, which explains the sting in my tail. Mars in Scorpio especially influenced this as it dictates how you fight. If someone attacks me then my natural impulse is to fight back, and when I do it’s with poison. I additionally have Pluto in my mid heaven, which makes me stand my ground and I’m not afraid to protect myself. I likewise have Sagittarius rising which makes me quick of the tongue– nevertheless I often speak on impulse and think later. It likewise makes me spout words out as opposed to speak them gently and plainly, especially if I feel that I’ve actually been treated unfairly.

yoga, relationshipHowever, this response doesn’t work for me any longer. Now that yoga exercise has made me increasingly analytical about every little thing that I state and do. After the emotion and temper had actually drained out of the situationIwas the one left sensation bad. I cried for 2 whole days and lay awake during the night regretting my vicious words and wishing that my tongue had held itself.

The yoga sutra’s provided me this advice “you must constantly be truthful, nevertheless a hurtful truth needs to not be uttered.” So if you’re saying something just to be upsetting, even if it’s real, then you need to discover the best ways to keep stum.

Yesterday I was reading my spiritual scriptures (continually trying to improve myself) and Eknath Easwaran dropped some even more light on my lesson.

I’ve heard the most cultured of people, in the most affectionate of relationships, saying hurtful things just because they haven’t learned to train the mind never ever to savour any kind of damage.”

He goes on to say “Nothing burns in hell but self-will. A flare-up of self-will might seem justified at the time, however for those who’re delicate, a stab of sorrow follows all prematurely. This is a great indication. It’s better to be sensitive, struggle with our blunders and learn not to repeat them than to undergo life, leaving a path of broken relationships and questioning why we harm within.”

loveSo this is my course, my present from me to you. Discover how to act not respond. Discover how to hold back a disrespectful remark, even if you’re being insulted, took down, attacked or belittled. You must learn to think “Oh no– I don’t wish to lie awake during the night sensation sorry and regretting my words. Easwaran says that at some point the reversal of the conditioning will presume that if someone states or does something unkind to you that you’ll instantly feel sorry for that person (and not for yourself). That’s my new objective, definitely something worth working to.

This policy additionally falls under the moral principle of Ahimsa– non harming. It’s selecting how you react to not hurt others but also to not damage yourself by your words to others.

The very least we can do is profit from our errors and wish that next time around we act in a different way. When you acknowledge an error and lie awake during the night unable to sleep since of it then you must make use of that pain to drive down to the depths of your inner being and bring about change. Link to your deeper awareness and aid cause the need to not act upon self -will once more.

Do not be too extreme on yourself though, keep in mind that it’s much better to make mistakes, suffer and find out than not to grow at all.

Be gentle to yourself. Be kind to others. Love thy adversary in order to Love thyself.

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